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There may be a biological reason why women may be prone to “bonding” with men after having sex. Why once we sleep with a man we really like we cling to him a bit tighter, start thinking “relationship” or “where is this going.” It’s a hormone that our bodies release naturally: Oxytocin. There isn’t a lot of information on this hormone, but what I found was intriguing and thought I would pass it on to you, hotties. I found this interesting info on the Wellness Blog http://www.wellness.com/blogs/happyspouse/6318/the-link-between-the-hormone-oxytocin-and-female-orgasm-bonding-and-attachment/dawn-michael-sex-counselor
Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm. It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. Oxytocin also seems to help cement the strong bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth. The hormone is naturally released in response to a variety of environmental stimuli including nipple stimulation in lactating women, and uterine or cervical stimulation during sex, or as the result of a baby moving down the birth canal.
Interesting, no? I’m giving you this information to be aware of. I’ve discovered that I feel much safer, more turned on, and relaxed when I get to know a man and trust him before I get intimate. And when I’m all these things, I do love a nice cuddle with the man who makes me feel this way. Do you? Or are you immune to the effects of oxytocin flowing in your veins. I have a follower on Facebook who hates to cuddle after sex with her husband. Her husband loves to! How cute, huh? The roles are switched. Most women I know LOVE to cuddle.
I’m hoping that more research is devoted to this very interesting hormone. While we await, see how your luscious body reacts to it, see how much “pre-bonding” you need to do before you get intimate with a man. Maybe you can love em’ and leave em.’ Oh! And PLEASE do share. Our collective research is ooooooh sooooo important! Love, Goddess
Update: I’ve recently found these books and have added them to my reading list. They address Oxytocin and wanted to share my research with you:
The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love
Meet Your Happy Chemicals: Dopamine, Endorphin, Oxytocin, Serotonin
The Oxytocin Factor: Tapping The Hormone Of Calm, Love, And Healing
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