Understanding men a valuable resource! This article is a follow up to “What We Can Learn From Mens Magazines.” Please re-read. A specific example of their competitive nature came up this weekend to me constantly. Would you like more info on how to deal with their competitive nature? Yeah…I know you do.
I was channel surfing the other night and the movie “Friends with Benefits” was on. If you haven’t seen it, it’s about two friends-Jamie and Dylan-who decide to have sex without the strings of a “relationship.” Jamie decides that it isn’t working and they should stop. She meets a guy. On her first date she tells him she doesn’t sleep with anyone until the fifth date. After sleeping with this guy on the 5th date, she is surprised when he ditches her. She is upset (of course) and thinks it’s her:
Jamie: I gotta stop thinking it’s not me. I mean, it’s gotta be me!
Dylan: It’s not you. Nothing is wrong with you. He’s a guy. You gave him a five date challenge, he got you and cut out. Forget the douche! He’s a dick. He’s a dick douche.
This is great advice from Dylan. But Jamie was right. It was her. She told the guy exactly what he had to do to “get her.” If she doesn’t want that anymore? Perhaps she should keep the guy guessing. Not as a game, but as a way to gauge his interest in her. Every guy wants to get laid and Jamie made it WAY too easy for him. You’ve got to be smarter than a guy. And guys are the first to admit they aren’t too smart. Don’t lay all your cards on the table. Men will love it. You told them exactly how to get what they want from you with very little effort.
Other examples:
If you have a guy friend who is being rude or obnoxious? Call him on it. Then watch his actions. If he is sorry, he may not say it. He will show with his actions. I recently called a guy friend on his crap. He hasn’t apologized, but boy oh boy has he been a sweetie!
Another guy friend of mine likes to have Sunday breakfast with me. So he started SKYPE-ing me first thing Sunday morning. I told him to call me because I would have to get out of bed to talk to him through SKYPE. I had a phone by my bed. What did he do? He continued to SKYPE me. Whose fault is this?
MINE.
But Goddess…you told him what wasn’t acceptable to you and he disrespected you by calling you.
No, Brat.
It’s my fault because I made a challenge/game out of SKYPE-ing to this guy. You have to know when you have presented a challenge to a guy. A fun little button to push. This is what my guy friend heard me say: “This is annoying. Don’t do that.” He will do a happy dance in his mind thinking of all the fun he is going to have SKYPE-ing me on a Sunday morning. Oh how men LOVE to annoy women they love.
You’ve got to be smarter than him, Bitch. Simple solution. Turn the lap top off. Now he calls. And we discussed it. He admitted he was enjoying pushing my buttons. I’ll let him push my buttons in a playful way but not in a way that irritates me! You know the old saying…give an inch and they will take a mile? Be smarter Bitch. Want even smarter? Learn from a man: I like Michael Fiore. I’ve seen him on TV and he tells women exactly how to get and keep a mans’ attention. Click here for more. Finally, if you really want to rock it here is my Private Coaching Program: Your Re-Awakening Class dismissed. Love, Goddess
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