Understanding Men: Michael Buble’ music video

Before you read this blog I’d like you to watch one of my favorite music videos:  Michael Buble’s  “Just Haven’t Met You Yet.”  Watch, enjoy and then meet me back here for some fun.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1AJmKkU5POA

What can we learn about love from this music video?  A lot.  Here we go…

“You’ll make me work so we can work to work it out.  And I promise you kid, I give so much more than I get.   I just haven’t met you yet,”  he sings.

He just hasn’t met you yet.  In other words, ladies, bitches, hot ones.  He’s not ready to “work” at a relationship because he hasn’t met the right girl yet.  A lot of women may think “It’s me!  Pick me!  I’ll work with you!”  And it’s easy to say that if you are being bombarded by the romance in this music video.  And who is the “right girl” he is singing about?  The right girl will see beyond the snappy beat, hot guy with the gorgeous voice and listen to what he is saying.  She’d be standing there amongst the confetti and all out band thinking…

“Nice words.  Back them up.” 

Because she will hear him singing about “one day” and “someday” and think, I’m not Miss Right Now.  After the confetti settles, she’ll thank him for the song, give him a warm gorgeous smile and say “I’ve got to go.”  She’ll let him chase after her to get her phone number.  She’ll pull out her card and hand it to him.  Or not.  Her choice.  Why?  She is gauging his sincerity.  Then she’ll sit back and let him “work so we can work to work it out.”  Let him call, set up dates, show by his actions he likes her.  She won’t give herself up.  She’ll be aware.  Especially as the romance settles a bit and disagreements arise.   She’ll look for the strong man who is worthy of her heart.

“They say alls fair in love and war,”  he sings.  And he just declared it.  Are you ready to fight for your heart?

Yes, huge cliche. But this is your gorgeous heart, honey.  Make him earn it.  Let him show you he is a man and not a boy by his words and actions.  Follow through over time is what makes you hot.  (At least it does for me, LOL!)  Grand gestures like marching bands and confetti are nice.  Notice the little things he does…not just the over the top.  Does he treat you wonderfully?  Open doors for you, carry stuff for you and hug you just because?  

How about you?  Relationships go both ways.  Men are looking for a strong woman who appreciates him and who HE can count on, too.  Do you thank him for everything he does for you?  Even the stuff you don’t quite understand?  (None of this…he bought me a remote control when all I wanted was a rose)  Thank him for what he does.  Period.  When he shows you how the remote works, oooo over his “fixing things ability.”  One of the best things about men is that they fix things.  And he just gave you love by fixing your TV for you.  TVs are big things for guys.  By ooo-ing over him, you just gave your man his version of flowers.   Let’s be blunt.   Love is an action.  Give as good as you get.  If you’re whining over the lack of flowers and aren’t seeing what’s important,  maybe you aren’t ready to love.  Working to work it out works both ways.  Ask yourself a very important question.  Is your strong bitch ready for love or does your inner “brat” just “want” it?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/bitchy-vs-bratty/ 

And remember the end of the video.  The beautiful girl in the video enters the store as he’s leaving, and he keeps walking.  It’s not about her looks.  Looks do not make a man work hard over the long term.  Initially yes, but it’s the strong woman who doesn’t tolerate disrespect from him that wins his heart.  It’s the woman who fights right back by not giving herself, her friends or interests up just to be with him.  And who is that strong, loving woman?  YOU.  Love, Goddess

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