Memorial Day Gratitude

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Gorgeous Memorial Day image from Pinterest

 

Memorial Day Gratitude.   A country wide Memorial Day celebration for all in the armed forces and their loved ones.  The thought of an entire country having a HUGE BBQ Gratitude Party in the warm spring sun always makes me smile.  LET’S PARTY!  Big hug, shot of tequila toast and from the bottom of my heart love to our service men and women.  We would not be here without each and every one of you.  Love, Goddess

 

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Fun With Feminine Quotes

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Reaching higher or giving ourselves a kick in the *** when we need them.  Gorgeous image from Public domain Pictures.net 

 

Fun with Feminine Quotes!  Let’s have some fun.  Seriously (insert winky smiley face here)

“The egg gives a chemical signal to the sperm or the sperm would not know where it’s going!”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.

OMG I love this quote.  This is a metaphor for the male female relationship.  I know it’s a lot…but it’s also so fun to think about.  We have so much power that we aren’t using ladies!  Revel in your power…and all the fun you could be having.

“Some of the things you believe were never true.  They were someone else’s fears.  Give yourself a chance to examine your thoughts.  Change those that are negative.  You are deserving.”  Louise Hay

Some people teach us to shame:  Our bodies, our beliefs, our dreams.  That is just their fear.  Or their “shit.”  This sort of thing can make you feel very uncomfortable.  I was at a dinner.   It was 8 of us.  3 of the women I did not know very well but they were fun and witty!  Until the food came to the table.  Three of them split a tiny filet and salad.  I will never forget how unhappy they became.  It was like the energy was just sucked out of the fun and witty.  Worse…it made me feel yucky about eating my own dinner!  I was able to switch it to gratitude for my meal but this was not easy.  This is so tough but remember…try try not to be sucked into this.  Idea:  Create a list of everything you are grateful for.  When you are in a situation similar to this?  Try focusing on those things.

“There is no way of knowing unless you ask.”  Bitch Lifestyle

This is classic Drama Queen.  Drama Queens drive themselves crazy wondering!  A Sassy Bitch will ask.

” I have a respect for manners as such, they are a way of dealing with people you don’t agree with or like.”  Margaret Mead

LOL…love.  A well placed “Pardon Me?” to a rude person is so fun when you see how they react!  For more:  Dealing with Rude People

“You’ve got enemies?  Good.  That means you actually stood up for something in life.”  Eminiem

Yup.  Double the fun if you were “mannered” in your dealing with these people.

“The secret of being a bore is to tell everything.”  Voltaire

This is a major secret from some of the most notorious Seductresses:  Beware of revealing too much too soon!  More Seductress Secrets

“When was the last time you did something for the first time?”  Anonymous Sassy Bitch

I was really behind the eight ball on this one and have added 2 new things to do this year.  I want to learn to play golf and learn all I can about real estate.  How about YOU????

“The truth will set you free.  But first it will piss you off.”  Gloria Steinem.

Right????  LOL

“It’s exhausting being fabulous.”  Ancient Bitch Proverb.

Yes it is.  Sometimes.  But do we have a choice?  I was watching a lady on TV.  I found her energy and zest a bit off putting.  Then I found out she had been dealing with Multiple Sclerosis for years.  Suddenly her zest for life made me realize my Bratty Brat was in charge.   I’m grateful for her now because this gave me the “kick in the ass” I deserved.  How dare I judge her?  Especially someone I don’t know.  Thank you lady.  For showing me that I had lost my fabulous.  If you can party with Multiple Sclerosis?  I can wake up from my BRAT.   She showed me that I need to be WAY more grateful and party with that instead.

Now go out and play with these quotes and own your fabulous.  Love, Goddess

 

Suggested Reading:

  1.  Dodging Energy Vampires
  2.  Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  3.  On Amazon:  Bitch Lifestyle The Manual
  4.  Bitch Lifestyle Home

 

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Don’t Do This to a Man!

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What you want to do isn’t necessarily what you should.  Awesome Anne Taintor from Post Crossing

Don’t do this to a man.

Just don’t.

Read on for the what and why.  

I threw a 50th birthday party for my brother a few week ago.  A surprise wine tasting party that was a success and my brother and myself got pretty lit.  My best-friend (Thank you!) drove us home.  The next day my best friend and I get up to go pick up my brother to go out to breakfast.  We get in my car and it’s completely dead.  My best-friend thought the head lights went off automatically and accidentally left them on all night.  So I said to her…can you drive?  She said yes and then I said:

“Don’t tell him about having to jump start my car until after breakfast.”

She asked why.

I said…

“He will want to focus on eating.  When he’s done he’ll be ready to deal.”

She agreed and off we went.  We had breakfast and my bother fixed the problem immediately after.

So in conclusion:

Don’t do this to a man:  Ask him to do something if he is hungry (especially when hungover!).

The why:  A man who is hungry is focused on one thing.  Eating.  Let him enjoy his meal.  In most cases (unless of course an emergency) this is a win win.  He gets to eat and the problem will be fixed.  Remember the old saying “The way to a mans’ heart is through his stomach?” Not much has changed with this.  Except we eat out more now than 20 years ago!

When I discussed this with my brother a few days later, he was happy that I let him eat.  He loved it and thanked me.  The only thing he would have liked was to relax for a few minutes after eating before jumping my car.  Which was cool.  I mean, he had a big night, was exhausted, it was Sunday and he needed to decompress.  All totally understandable.

This is a big thing for a man.  It may not seem like much to us…but…we should just try understand this is how they roll.  Men are wonderfully NOT complex.  Appreciate the fact that when a man is hungry…let him eat.  That cranky dude will be fine and ready to assist you when he’s fed.   When we do this they will do the same for us.  (Unless of course he or she is a taker) Being in any sort of a relationship is give and take.  Curious Curiosity:  How about it men?  Why is this important to you?  I would love to hear your feed back.  Understanding, appreciation and learning more going out to everyone!

Important ironic huge PS:  Right after I finished writing and editing this post I had to go over to my Mom and Dads’ home.  They were away and I had to let in the Plummer to fix their sink.  I let him in and showed him the button to close the garage door.  Our conversation and what I’m thinking in italics:

Me:  Thanks … if you need anything call.

Plummer: (With a concerned look on his face) Uhhh…I didn’t realize it was so close to lunch time…

Me: Oh…   Seriously?  Now you’re worried about my leaving because you won’t be able to get back in if you want to go to lunch?  I don’t want to hang out while this dude goes to get lunch!  I’ll try the confused look reaction.  This works in a lot of these situations because the man will, even when hungry, realize that there is a problem and try to solve it.  In this case:  How do I solve my lunch problem without pissing off the girl customer in front of me.

Me:  (confused look)

Plummer:  Uhhhh…let me see how long this will take.

I follow him about the kitchen as he takes inventory and he realizes it won’t take long.  Good.  I can leave!  The timing on this was pretty funny to me so I hope it amused you too.  I wish you could have seen the look on the Plummers’ face when he realized it was so close to lunch time! (Insert amused chuckle face here)  Another example how a little patience and understanding will help things work out.  A guy’s stomach is a big thing.  Respect it and he will respect you.

Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1.  21 Days to Fabulous Glorious Abundance
  2.  My book on Amazon:   Bitch Lifestyle The Manual
  3.  Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  4.  Bitch Lifestyle Home

 

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Relationship Deal Breaker?

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Realationship deal breaker? ***

What are ways to keep from doing it?   Read on to find out.

I was reading one of those “Ask so and so/Ann Landers” type columns in the paper a few weeks ago.  A woman didn’t know how to salvage a relationship she was in.  Here are the quickie bullet points:

  • Prior to dating “Guy she likes,” she was sleeping with Dude X.
  • She started dating “Guy she likes,” but they stopped seeing each other.
  • She started sleeping with Dude Y.
  • She starts dating “Guy she likes,” again and they decide to have an exclusive relationship.
  • She feels as though she “needs” to tell him about who she was sleeping with when she and “Guy she likes,” were not serious, now that they ARE serious.
  • She tells him the “Dudes” she was sleeping with.
  • “Guy she likes” does not take this well and she doesn’t know why.

Relationship deal breaker?  TMI…too much information.  Why?  Because it wasn’t necessary for her to tell “Guy she likes” who she’d been sleeping with when they weren’t in a committed relationship.  This pain could be eased if a person learns what their relationship deal breakers are.  What do you want?  Do you want a relationship?  Do you just want sex?  Are you not sure what you want?   You know what works with all of these scenarios?  Getting to know the person you may want to date, have sex with or work toward a relationship with.  And this starts with …

YOU.

It’s up to you to figure out what you like.  It’s up to you to ask the questions and notice the actions of the person you may want to get to know better.  How do you find out your deal breakers?  Action and experience.  Here are a few of my relationship deal breakers.  These have helped spare me from not all, but a lot of painful experiences.

  • Has he learned anything from past relationships?  Did he cheat?  Did he put it all on the ex?  I was out on a date recently with a divorced man.  I asked him why he thought his marriage ended.  Through his response I knew he wasn’t for me.  I was looking to date seriously.  Dating seriously does not work for me if the guy is still in love with someone else.  I don’t want to be “Rebound Girl.” Been there, done with the pain of that.  After he finished I said to him, without a stitch of anger: “You realize you’re still in love with your ex-wife, right?”  He gave me a shocked look.  Said I may be right and STILL tried to sleep with me. (I won’t go into the details but no way!)
  • Giving to each other. Love is giving and receiving.  Even when one of you may not want to.
  • He speaks lovingly of family, friends and is polite to others (like waitstaff).  If a person can’t show kindness?  RUN!!!!
  • He has a zest for life and he is responsible.  He doesn’t have 5 kids with 5 different baby mamas.  If he was married, he has a good relationship with his ex-wife…for the kids sake.  For more read:  “If a man Wants to Borrow Money.”  

In a nutshell, I want to be around responsible and loving people.  If we can’t trust someone why would we give our hearts or bodies to them?  That is more important than a discussion of who slept with who and when.  You’re allowed to keep certain things private.  I see things on social media and I don’t even know how to respond to them.  Like the colon polyp someone is having removed.  You can say you’re going to have a procedure, but do we all need the details?  Like the size, shape or color of something coming from your colon?  You can choose to do all these things.  But by doing them there may be consequences.  It may make people you want to get to know uncomfortable:  It may keep you from having a closer relationship.  So share, but try to wait until you get to know someone better first.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1.  Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  2.  Bitch Lifestyle The Manual
  3.  Rapunzel and Her Tower
  4.  Bitch Lifestyle Home
  5. ***For Anne Taintor Sassy visit Static Light Speed  and Anne Taintor web sites!

Bitch Lifestyle has affiliate relationships with Amazon and Hay House.  I’ve selected these affiliates to share books, videos and classes that I’ve enjoyed and hope readers on this site will as well.  Clicking on a link will be of no cost to you.  I will only receive a commission if you decide to make a purchase.

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